Consensus & Compromises

Well... it's been awhile since I last posted anything here. And yup it was because I had been extremely busy with both my personal and work life. Today's topic will be on my personal life.

Hb and I, we rarely have arguments. Friends told us that when they were planning for their weddings, they had the most disagreements and fights. But when Hb and I looked back at our wedding planning, it was one of the happiest moments of our lives. We didn't argue a single bit. Every single decision was made collectively either through consensus or compromises. It was simple, enjoyable n pleasant.

However things changed when we started renovating our house! We argued day and night and quarrel about anything and everything. From the type and brand of appliances to buy to the layout of rooms to lightings to furniture to reno details. Basically every damn thing!

It has been truly exhausting and tiring. One day we decided that we need to stop getting on each other's nerves or at the very least try to consciously steer away from arguing. The rationale was a simple and straightforward one. In future when we look back at the memories of building our dream home together, would we want to remember all the fights, arguments, irritations and annoyance with one another or would we rather have a great pleasant memory like our wedding planning before?

You don't need to be a rocket scientist to know which one we opted for. It is true that marriage needs compromise and lots of work from both parties in order to keep it healthy. Am glad we somewhat came to our senses early enough before it leaves a dent in our marriage.

These days we learn to hear each other out first and to discuss every single detail calmly without being overly emo over our personal preferences. So far, it has been working for us. Fingers crossed that we will be able to complete building our dream home peacefully! :))