Oh well, a lot of you asked the most natural question pertaining the dispute between me and my bf's sister: What is / was my bf's stand on this?
Before Dispute
In a way, he started the whole damn issue. Cos if he insisted in staying in the house, none of these would've happened. Instead, he opted to go with what his family said.
During Dispute
During this time he regretted his earlier action. But needless to say, it was too late. But he did what he could in explaining to his parents.
When his mother asked me to apologize, he told her not to interfere and that she has no right in asking other people's daughter to apologize when she doesn't even know head or tail of the entire story.
When the sister scolded him, he said he will always stand by my side and yes, he is willing to do anything for "the woman" (sister asked if it's worth abandoning his family for the woman i.e. me lor).
After Dispute
Respected my wish to not attend any of his family functions. Told his parents not to help salvage the relationship between his sister and I anymore cos it's defintely not possible if his sister expects an apology.
His Stand:
Just like what you guys said:
Respect the parents
Ignore the sister
Concentrate in building our future
Sigh...
I don't quite know what to expect out of him. On one hand, it seemed like he has done what he could in protecting me. On the other, I truly truly wished that he would stop talking to his sister!
5 comments:
u have no right to ask him not to talk to his sister but he has the right to decide whether to talk to her or not, even in either situation also, just be sure that that woman do not interfere your life only. in such situation u too have to understand that he's in the middle which ppl say both side of hand also flesh.
hey..gal thx for dropping by my site.
Sorry to hear bout the dispute..Smtimes God intentionally put difficuly and imperfect ppl in our life so that we could learn to lov n forgiv
cincailah: u think i dunno meh... that's why i also said (i myself don't quite know what to expect out of him) and that is also why i don't mention him at all in the posts about this...
conniexan: thks for dropping by mine too... :)
From wat i read, i think he has done his fair share of protecting u. He has manage to keep a balance lo. If he sides u too obviously it will give the BFH a chance to bad mouth u in front of the parents saying how the evil woman has turn their little boy scout against them etc.
Think he has made his stand clear. "I am ur son and brother and i will respect that. U shall respect me and her in return. Touch my woman and feel my wrath!"
Sum it up is "my parents and family is my duty to take care and fulfil their needs. u as my wife/gf need only respect them and not to crumble under their command and bidding. I in turn am required to love and take care of my wife/gf. U as my parents n family need only respect her and not treat her like a queen and obey her every command, thats my job. :P
Here i go again, long long wind. Like Lao Ah Pek.
End here.
:P
I think he did his best already. Very hard to get him to STOP communicating with his sister. They're siblings after all. But we're girls, sometimes the revenging philosophy just wont go off from our heads. haha.
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